Why is my family constantly talking crap about me?! how do i get them to stop???

this really hurts and I don't know what to do! I'm a 20 year old mother of a 15 month old, I'm a hard worker, graduated from highschool, worked 2 jobs after that, then graduated from college to become a dental assistant, while working a full time job.I'm a great mother, I have a great very loving boyfriend that my family hates with a passion.well, we basically hit rock bottom with our warehouse job and got laid off.i hated dental assisting, so that's why i never went back to the field, but i was being looked down on, critisized by my family, pressured to go into the dental field.almost every few days, i hear about my family talking crap about us. and we were broke, so i needed financial help.so i decided to change it. I looked for a dental assisting job, scored some interviews, my boyfriend got his job back, and they're still not satisfied! but they can't talk, they all work dead end jobs.they won't stop talking about me, i can't even go to family functions without them talking!

Why is my family constantly talking crap about me?! how do i get them to stop???
Like the old saying we cant choose our family but we can choose our friends. Try to look at your family as friends . Good Luck
Reply:hey nikki,


honey, first of all, NEVER LET YOUR FAMILY TELL YOU HOW YOUR LIFE SHOULD BE LIVED! you are the one that has to live it and deal with the decisions that you make, not them. you have to raise your baby, not them. you are in the relationship, NOT THEM. i find from experience that family will "pop their chops" when they are jealous, threatened by your success, or just to make them feel better. girl, i got married at 15 to a 22 year old, so you know i heard alot of talk, but guess what, they are all still single or in miserable relationships and my hubby and i just celebrated 13 years of marriage and we are sooooooooooooo happy STILL. my point is although they are your family and some may honestly think that they are "doing this in your best interest" leave them in the dark, dont tell them no decisions that you and your boyfriend make, you are grown and have to answer to no one but God. if you continue to live your life the way they want you to, you will NEVER be truly happy, think about that.


Be Blessed
Reply:Don't put up with it ,maybe you made some mistakes;we all do, but if they are constantly bashing you then its time to cut ties with them at least for a while.





You are young and it would be nice to have family support(emotional) with a new baby and all but if they are hell bent on


judging/putting you down then stop letting them hurt you.





Just work hard as a Dental Asst. for now since you already went through School for it, you have financial troubles and a young child so it's better to stick with what you know until you have some savings and can look for something else you might enjoy.





Keep your chin up and your distance from your relatives,while making a Great Life with your Boyfriend and Baby. Hopefully your family will realize they miss you in their lives.
Reply:You family is being pretty mean. I'm sure they are just very worried for you, and they are concerned, but let them know you dont appreciate how they are behaving. Lay it all out, tell them straight up. Dont take crap from anybody, noone ever deserves it. So many people have been in the same situation...even me. It's normal. Just gotta go with the flow, and enjoy life.
Reply:Do what I did, tell them to kiss your pretty little a** goodbye and leave!!!!